This Guy

Disclaimer - this is a piece I wrote during my bachelor days to remind myself to stand my ground.  Thankfully I did but there is a buddy out there who could probably use these words to remember that integrity and being true to your own identity are not worth compromising -

Is it possible that most, if not all women think that men are ruled by something other than our brains?  Seriously, do you ladies really assume that a pretty smile and the right pheromones are all that’s needed to catch a man’s attention and then keep it?  Do the women of the world think that all or the majority of men are so focused on a female’s physical attributes that he’ll put up with her rudeness as if to say, “you’re so hot it’s okay that you treat me like a piece of shit.”

Newsflash---This guy could give two shits less what a woman looks like if she acts like a jerk.  This guy would prefer the real girl next door over the model who acts like an asshole.   

Endeavor to see the entirety of yourself ladies.  Strive to see beyond the cheek bones, eyes, lips, breasts, waist, legs and the latest hairstyle you sport.  The fact is this guy bores a hole right through all that surface crap into the parts that are the real you.  He finds the depth of your sincerity and compassion underneath.  He keys in on your integrity and reliability; the values and principles you practice rather than those you recite.

So when your character is ugly and your sincerity is in serious doubt, don’t expect this guy to take a second look and especially don’t expect him to prop you up on a pedestal like many others have probably done in the past.  Push your luck with your rude behavior and you’ll find yourself propped up on a dart board, publicly embarrassed by someone far more intellectually intimidating than anyone you’ve ever known. 

This guy doesn’t act like your typical guys.  This guy has a brain and a level of thinking that you can only hope to reach one day.  He values things you cannot comprehend let alone practice in your dealings with others on this earth.

Don’t be disappointed that he doesn’t care about your batting eyes, it’s not a mark against your outward appearance.  Endeavor instead to see the hard work you have to do inside, the extreme makeover your character requires, if you ever hope to get his attention.

Hit a club if you want to be the center of attention based on the way you shake your posterior or pucker your lips.  This guy only sees a pretty shell, and through those many cracks he sees the spoiled and soiled interior.

 

What you fail to realize is this guy has travelled the world and seen physical specimens that would leave you breathless; beauties that mark you as trash by simple physical comparison.  These are women with qualities you just couldn’t appreciate or begin to comprehend.  No, you have nothing beautiful or unique to offer because it is what is inside that is the truest form of identity and beauty.

Let your fears be assuaged because many men will not drill so deep nor care if they could.  Yes, better to move along because you will only find yourself wanting when you try to measure up for this guy.